Don’t let the world define how you parent.




Don’t let the world define how you parent. 
Don’t let the world tell you right from wrong!

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Today's been a day. Started off with the kids clogging the toilet to a major food fight among 5 kids. As I speak to them regarding their behavior two of them start wrestling with each other. At this point I’ve had enough of the talks, yelling and asked them to get up and put their shoes on. Imminently they stopped and cried “where we going?”…”’mom you can’t do this to us” as I just stood there waiting. Finally they got their shoes on and I escorted them outside in the pouring rain. Thankfully it’s 70ish outside (Perfect condition for a run in the rain). We finally got to the end of the driveway and I told them to run to the trash bins and back. They looked at me and said “we’re sorry please don’t make us” I explained that I am tired of the nonsense and told them they need to run their bad habits out. After rounds of back and forth I kept quiet and they ran. 4 laps total. Then they came to me and apologized. Now I may get hate for this method and I may be criticized by others but note this down! There are parents out there struggling. Some kids are hard to get through too! Don’t let the world define how you parent. Don’t let the world tell you right from wrong. I struggled today. I was tried of the yelling and screaming that I simply told them to go RUN! Come back when you’re ready to fix your behavior. They came back and they came back ready to improve. We all have bad days. We all struggle and sometimes we need a distraction from the situation so we can revisit it and speak out what’s bugging us in a positive way. The end result was my kids all apologized to each other, one’s writing a letter expressing their self while the rest are down for a nap. A strict parent isn’t a bad parent. I am strict because I know what my kids can become and what they are capable of! Greatest isn’t given it’s earned. I live by this quote everyday and I will not allow anyone to tell me otherwise. For all the mom/dads and parents out there struggling you aren't alone. Stay positive! Stay strong! You will get through whatever is going on too! 


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